In our last video blog, we discussed how forgiveness is not a get out of jail free card and even when forgiveness is freely given the dynamics of a relationship are forever changed because of the sin.
Misunderstood forgiveness is sometimes thought of like the restore button on your computer which allows you to go back in time to some point in the past when it was functioning correctly and everything in between is completely erased. When we offend someone, commit a sin against them or when the offense or sin is toward us all to often we think we can hit a magical restore button, go back to a time before the sin occurred and it will be just like it never happened.
Adam and Eve may have been thinking just like this when they decided the tree looked good. They thought we can eat the fruit, we can find out what God is holding back from us. Then ask for His forgiveness and everything will be exactly like it was before we sinned. No big deal. But it wasn’t the same and it won’t be for you. Even when forgiveness is freely given the dynamics of the relationship are forever altered.
Just because we choose to forgive someone or forgiveness is extended toward us does not mean that short term ramifications won’t exist for both of you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean that they or you get completely let off the hook for everything they have done.
In order to move forward we need to be willing to ask for forgiveness and freely forgive others but also remember that the relationship has been forever changed.
At Faith Forward Coaching we are praying this helps you move forward today.