morning devotion Ephesians chapter 4 if this is helpful to you if you could like comment share that helps me know that it's helpful and it helps us help as many people as possible a few weeks ago we did a devotion on how the Bible connects demonic activity and unforgiveness in our lives and a lot of people commented and always read the comments man is really hard for me and here's why so let me talk real quick about 10 things forgiveness is not 10 things forgiveness is not Ephesians 4:32 be kind to one another tenderhearted forgiving one another God in Christ forgave youso it says God in Christ forgave that's how we're supposed to forgive is not approving of her diminishing sin it's not saying all man you know it wouldn't be that kind of thing such a big deal died for that sin forgiveness is not approving ever-diminishing SIN number to forgiveness is not enabling sin you see this lot of times when addicts are in a family and they're constantly sitting against the people around them and then in the name of forgiveness people keep cleaning up their messes and what they're really doing is there actually participating in the attics sin by enabling them to keep sinning against God another people forgiveness is not enabling synonym for 3 forgiveness is not denying wrongdoing it's not saying things like it never happened I've just moved on it didn't affect me yeah I did it affect you send effects peopleforgiveness is not denying wrongdoing number for forgiveness is not waiting for an apology some people like to say I will forgive as soon as they say they're sorry but let me just tell you there's some people in your life there are so toxic so wicked they're going to keep sending forever and ever and ever and if you wait for an apology you will wait until the day you die you'll be tortured by the Demonic influence of bitterness and unforgiveness your life forgiveness is not waiting for an apology next forgiveness is not forgetting some people like to say I forgive and forget and some people even point to the Bible where it says that God will remember our sins no more because God is omniscient God does not forget a single thing that's ever happened what the Bible means when it says that God will remember our sins no more is it means that he does not relate to us on the basis of what we have here relates to us on the basis of what Jesus did for us so forgiveness is not forgetting you can't forget you can't forget okay number I think five forgiveness is not ceasing to feel pain just because it's something you just need to hear this in this devotion just because it still hurts doesn't mean you failed to forgive some people tell you what man if you forgive shouldn't hurt anymore because remember the Bible says that when Jesus returns on the last day he will wipe away every tear from every eye what that means is that we're going to be crying until Jesus returns until Jesus returns so just because you forgiven them doesn't mean that you won't feel pain anymore forgiveness is not season to feel pain number 6 6 7 8 9 number 7 forgiveness is not a one-time event sometimes they're going to keep sending if you've been sinned against very very grievously there's many times where the memory of that Sandry stirs up back in your heart and you're going to have to forgive them over and over and over one of my favorite pastors is I think is a Korean Pastor named yonggi Cho Jung each other too many years ago he said I forgive so many people because I hate so many people and that's really that's how it works man if you just as an example if your spouse cheated on you and you genuinely forgave him there may be times where you see them just talking casually and completely Godly ways to somebody of the opposite sex and it stirs up the memory of what they did to you and forgiveness looks like forgiving over and over and over forgiveness is not a one-time event number 8 forgiveness is not neglecting Justice you can forgive somebody and still call the police there's a difference between sins and crimes and you can forgive sins and still prosecute crimes is forgiveness is not neglecting Justice you can get a number 9 forgiveness is not trusting as this is really really important years ago somebody assistant like Uncle man he molested and abused our kids but I've forgiven him can you babysit know you can never babysit ever again no because forgiveness is not trusting God's trust should be slowly gained and quickly lost slowly gained and quickly lost forgiveness is not trusting in the number for forgiveness is not reconciliation some people will try to hold you emotional hostage and say until you reconciled with that person or until you reconcile with me until our relationships good that's not what the Bible says the Bible says he Paul says as far as it depends on you live at peace with everybody as far as it depends on you in other words it takes one person to repent it takes one person to forgive but it takes two people to reconcile and you may have forgiven somebody but they may not have truly repented or there may have been irreparably damaged it took place or trust eroded you know any unique way and Reconciliation doesn't happen it doesn't mean that you failed to forgive here's what years what forgiveness is forgiveness is going is is is canceling a person's debt to you that's what forgiveness is how God in Christ forgave us is looking at a person is going to send that you committed against me either you will pay the full price for that sin in Hell or Jesus Paid the full price for that sin when he died for you on the cross and so I choose to cancel the debt that you have because of the sin against me Ann. Here's the son of the sign that you know you forgiving is you genuinely want good things to happen to that person then things forgiveness is not theirs what forgiveness is