Obsessive compulsive disorder anger outbursts can make life with someone very difficult. There are some times that we communicate clearly and
the other person doesn't change or there is a situation that we cannot change
and at some point we stop saying why and we start saying what now. And we
accept the fact that we're going to have to either live with an irregular person or we have to live
with an irregular situation and we accept it.
Those of us who are perfectionists, obsessive
compulsive perfectionists, we come to the point to say you know what, that
it's not realistic to understand that everything is going to go right in life. So
I'm going to ask God for grace for this one. And I'm going to turn a corner. I'm
going to cool down a bit. I'm just going
to accept this and I'm going to trust that God will meet my needs in spite of
I remember when I was at that fast food
restaurant with the very poor service, and all of the sudden I had an epiphany.
I'm standing there and I'm realizing I'm mad and it’s not really making sense
for me to be mad and I'm thinking, you know what, this is that fast food
restaurant. What that means translated is everyone is making minimum wage and
everyone in here it's their first job they've ever had in their life. This is
not going to run smoothly.
And all of the sudden, for the very
first time in my life, I said fast food will most of the time not be fast. And
I was just set free right there in the middle of Jack in the Box. I started
laughing, inappropriately. Right there, in the middle of the restaurant. And I
was free for the first time in my life.
I was free when it came to fast food. I still
had Marsha in the car and I'm not over that yet but - I got acceptance on the
fast food thing. A stands for
acknowledge that you're angry, and deal with it in an assertive way or a way with acceptance. That's the A of the ABCs ofanger.
Quotes About Anger
B stands for backtrack. In James, the first
chapter, there's a wonderful scripture. It says, “this you know, my beloved
brother, but everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger for the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God.” What the
writer here is saying is that when you do find that you're caught up in that anger, and it has this way of speeding
up, and everything starts moving a little faster, just slow down, back-track.
Begin to ask some questions about how you got
to where you are. Have some self understanding. In Proverbs it's said this way:
“He who is slow to anger has great understanding.” That's what we are looking
for here.” But he who is quick tempered exalts folly.” Anger is a complex
emotion. Many times when there is anger there is a prior emotion that we are not comfortable dealing with.
For example here is a little child and
they are playing with a toy and another child comes and touches their toy and
many times you'll hear that little child say no, mine. And if the child gets angry enough the child may even hit
the other child. What's really going on there looks like anger, but what's going on there? There is a prior emotion that the
child is not comfortable with and what it is is fear.